Here is a list of resources that have helped me or loved ones on the path of Self-Marriage:



  •  When Things Fall Apart, Pema Chodron
  • Getting Unstuck (Audio CD), Pema Chodron
  • Feeding Your Demons, Tsultrim Allione
  • Zen & the Art of Falling in Love, Brenda Shoshanna
  • The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying, Sogyal Rinpoche
  • Self-Compassion, Kristin Neff


  • for women:  Awakening Women Institute, a global sanctuary for the feminine.  This work and community is my teacher and has changed my life.
  • for  men: The ManKind Project, a global organization for men at every stage of

  • Katalin Koda, a beloved friend of mine, is in India right now on a journey to marry herself and share it with the world in a documentary called Fire of the Goddess–read her blog here or support her on her journey by contacting her through her website:!