It’s a pretty bold decision to marry someone. You are, in essence, committing to love and live with another person for the rest of your life, no matter what. To grow together, to experience all the ups and downs of life together, perhaps to create a family. It’s a big commitment.
It’s funny that, while we may jump into lifelong commitment with another person, we hesitate in committing to ourselves–to holding ourselves with the same steady presence and compassion, to being there for ourselves no matter what, to supporting our own dreams and loving this miracle of a life we get to live in this body.
If you’ve ever doubted your inherent value, betrayed your own trust, lost yourself in a relationship, or felt there was something wrong with you for being single, you likely know the pain and disappointment of losing connection with yourself. Whether you are single, married, going through divorce, or about to marry, perhaps you also feel the importance of taking time to reconnect with yourself in a deep, soulful way and cultivate self-trust.
I know, it sounds big, daunting, and cliché. But if you’re anything like me, you know this is something felt deep within. And you know how hard it is to actually live it.
I, too, know those cold winter days where your heart feels as frozen as the snow-covered ground and all you want to do is crawl in a hole, hibernate, and wake up when it’s over, when it’s easy, when someone else can do the work it takes to live it for you.
I also know that we are the visionaries. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We share this game-changing dream, but what will it take to actually live it?
How does Self-Marriage Unveiled: the 10-Week Program work?
November 2-8: Your Engagement: Setting Intention*
November 9-15: Understanding Who You Are
November 16-22: What Matters in Your Wild and Precious Life*
November 23-29: Understanding Commitment
November 30-December 6: Facing Obstacles & the Many Ways We Play Small*
December 7-13: Prioritizing Nourishment
December 14-20: Writing Vows*
December 21-27: Relaxing into Gratitude
December 28-January 3: Self-Marriage Ceremony*
January 4-11: Integration & Living It
*We will have Self-Marriage Telecalls at the start of these weeks Sunday from 10-11 am PST (November 2, November 16**, November 30, December 14, December 28), and a final call on January 11. **On Nov 16 the call will be at 1-2 pm PST.
Marriage is a profound rite of passage into adulthood, partnership, family, companionship, and deep love.
Self-Marriage is just as profound a rite of passage into wholeness, trust, self-responsibility, self-liberation, and love sourced from within. It is a ritual of transformation, of proclaiming fully what is true in your heart and being celebrated by your community as you make it known that you are ready to live your full potential of love.
Like Marriage, Self-Marriage is a powerful ceremony and initiation, but it is also a deep and steady, day-to-day commitment.
It requires getting up every morning, rain or shine, and tending your children–doing the work it takes to see through the many veils of distraction, doubt, unworthiness, fear, and separation that keep us trapped in the momentum of a life we did not choose.
It requires commitment–yes, commitment, that much-feared C-word. I promise you, commitment is not as scary as you think–it’s actually quite liberating once you’re in it. In marrying yourself, you unveil what you already deeply love and care about and commit to it. You allow what truly matters to you to be at the forefront of your life. There is no need for forced self-motivation: the love that feeds your commitment is already there; it’s been there since the day you were born.
It is a huge statement to make: to marry yourself, to marry the essence of you, to choose a life of love.
The world needs it.
Investment: $20 per week = $200
Or pay in 4 bimonthly installments of $50:
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What You Get
As a bonus for joining Self-Marriage Unveiled, you will receive a free 20-minute private Self-Marriage session with Dominique, where you will have the chance to deepen in your Self-Marriage process with one-on-one support.
Additional one-hour private sessions will be available during this course to support you in your Self-Marriage journey for a special price of $50 per session (normally $75).
Who am I?
I am Dominique Youkhehpaz, the founder of Self-Marriage Ceremonies. I have guided hundreds of people into marrying themselves and am thrilled to offer Self-Marriage now in way that is globally accessible. Ever since I first facilitated Self-Marriage ceremonies for women at Burning Man in 2011, I have never turned back; I have dedicated my life to this work because it means everything to me. I know the potency of transformation and depth of lived intention that Self-Marriage brings those who step into its fire. I have witnessed people leave abusive relationships, step more fully into their life’s work, meet their beloved, and simply settle into inner peace without the need for big life changes by marrying themselves. And I know my own Self-Marriage has led me down this wild and fulfilling path of living out my heart’s YES, being a leader of my own life, and sharing this with you.
“I know Dominique to be a fierce lover of truth, and a shining star of the new generation of teachers blessing our planet in this time. She embodies innocence and ancient wisdom, and her devotion to the inner marriage is infectious. She guides you home to what really matters with such gentleness and compassion that you cannot help falling in love, with you.”
~Chameli Ardagh, founder of AwakeningWomen.com
“The essence of Dominique…how to describe? So very awake and so very alive. She lives in love, she sings like a dove, surely this angel was sent from above.
Wisdom is on her lips, truth is in her heart, and in an effortless dance she helps walls fall apart. Her beauty radiates from the inside out, she reminds us all to doubt our doubt. In marrying ourselves, we marry our choice. We remember, we remember, to trust the inner voice. We sink even deeper into our most authentic selves, we take all the stories and we put them on shelves.
Dominique has been a dear sister and guide, an example for all, a light on the path. It’s a lot of energy marrying yourself — I felt tremendous shifts and left the ceremony feeling ecstatic, elevated, and supported. The practices we did together were all heart opening, softening, intimate, devotional, playful and deep. Dominique is the real deal and walks her talk. I was honored to have her officiate my self-marriage. What a gift.”
Who is this program for?
This course is designed for those who feel ready to marry themselves and those who have already married themselves and wish to renew their vows. Maybe you are just beginning to feel the Self-Marriage impulse stir inside you, or maybe you’ve known it for a while.
You may be in any phase of life: in transition, struggling, thriving, married, single, lonely, fulfilled, busy, calm. Whatever phase you are in, you feel a strong yearning to look deeper into yourself, to examine your life and commit to living it more fully by marrying yourself.
How is Self-Marriage different from Self-Help programs?
There are enough people and programs around us telling us how to live, how to solve this or find that, feeding into the endless game of seeking in us–whether it is money or a partner or enlightenment or self-love. While it is definitely helpful to be given answers, practical support and tools to approaching the many challenges of life, we tend to lose trust in ourselves along the way. We can forget our own wisdom and freedom to choose.
Self-Marriage restores the responsibility and authority of how to live your life to you. Self-Marriage is a path to discover, recognize, and trust your own authority.
This program will hold a clear container for you to dive into self-inquiry and self-trust, commit to what matters to you, and live it in day-to-day life–but you will have to be the one to dive. You will notice in this Self-Marriage program that you will not be told what to do or “how to love yourself in 10 easy steps.” There will be flexibility with the practices, and even with clear instruction, the authority will always be given to you.
How much time will I need to spend each week on the material?
You will have the flexibility to spend anywhere from 15 minutes to several hours per week with the material provided. It is your own dedication that will feed you, and this program is intended as food for your own dedication.
What if I can’t make the calls?
Even if you can’t make the Self-Marriage Tele-calls, you will have all you need in the weekly emails to dive deeply into your own Self-Marriage journey. And you are still welcome to submit your questions and reflections to the group before the calls and receive feedback. After each call, you also will be sent a recording of the call.
What if I fall behind in the program?
There is no such thing–you are encouraged to listen to your own natural rhythm and unfolding during this program, so if there is a certain theme that you wish to practice with longer, go with it. If you discover that you need 10 months instead of 10 weeks for your Self-Marriage process, honor that, and know these 10 weeks will give you the material, support, and structure you need to begin the ongoing practice and ever-deepening journey of Self-Marriage.
Reflections from Women in the Previous Self-Marriage Program
Yes, Absolutely Yes. One of the rare experiences in life where words cannot suffice..
It’s a deep process, and you’re worth it. The program is really well done, and Dominique is totally inspiring, offering this as part of her life’s work!
~Summer Egland, Massage Therapist ~ ExceptionalCMT.com
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“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”